Family Constellation
Our family history across generations (secrets, painful events, repressed emotions, unresolved issues) weighs upon our lives, without our always being conscious of it.
Family & Systemic Constellation is a powerful healing process developed by innovative psychotherapist Bert Hellinger from Germany that reveals the influences of significant family events operating in the energy field of your family and the ways in which they affect our present lives.
Identification of blockages, hidden dynamics or entanglements allows us to find efficient and long lasting solutions to our personal and relational issues so repetition of destructive patterns come to an end.
How some significant personal experiences or family events, sometimes three or four subsequent generations, have consequences on our present life as well as our children’s lives.
How to counteract repetitive family or personal patterns of suffering (relationship or professional failure, conflicts, disease, addiction, death wish, food disorders, anger, jealousy, self-sabotage, self-injuries, pain…, ).
How can we go on after losing a loved one.
How can we restore bonds with loved ones whom we have lost all contacts with.
How to look at our family in a more positive, respectful and loving way.
When some unpleasant situations seem to repeat themselves into you life without obvious reasons.
When you have out of control reactions or strong feelings without knowing exactly why (Guilt, sadness, jealousy, anger, repulsion, fears…)
When you have been stood out by unexpected lost or separation with a loved one a partner, a child, a brother, a sister, a parent, a friend, a country…
When you want to open up totally to success, love and joy.
When you want to be at peace, make peace or restore interrupted bonds.
When you deeply want to live your life more fully
Family & Systemic Constellations approach can help
The Power of Family Ties:
We exist because our parents and our ancestors lived before us.
We are the prolongation of their lives.
The ties that bind us to our family members cannot be broken, even if we live far away from them, we distance ourselves from them or if they have passed away.
Would a tree be able to grow without its roots?
Most of our recurrent difficulties are rooted in unresolved family issues.
Family members are so connected to each other, anything that affects one member of the family has repercussions on the whole family and is often passed through several generations.
In a family, nothing is lost, nothing can remain indefinitely hidden.
Each family member is not a separated entity from his/her family system but he/she is an inter-dependent part of a whole system dynamic.
This process allows us to see our family through a broader perspective rather than from our previous limited point of view. We have a better understanding of the dynamic we are in and its effects on our life and have access to new solutions that we couldn’t envision before.
Negative patterns can then be broken. Love can flow naturally again and life experiences can become a source of strength and growth instead of endless sorrow.
Family constellation work is a phenomenological approach The solution is found through what the process reveals rather than through rational deductions.
How can you benefit from constellation work ?
When a family is shaken by difficult or tragic events or simply when something is unbalanced for whatever reason, usually someone takes on, unconsciously, some harmful burdens that don’t belong to him/her, in the hope of easing someone else’s suffering or re-establishing a balance within his family.
He/she may take on the responsibilities, the fate or the behavior of someone else (failure, death wish, illness, depression, alcoholism, anxiety, guilt, anger, duties…)
Children are very receptive and their ties to their parents are very strong.
They are especially prone to take on their parents’ or other people’s suffering in an attempt to be loved, re-establish a balance, to remain faithful to the family clan or one excluded member.
Unfortunately this doesn’t help but rather perpetuates more problems.
As we are all children of someone else it is essential to clarify what we have endorsed from our family and/or restore the flow of love with our parents: our life foundation.
Taking care of our family issues allows us to free ourselves from what doesn’t belong to us, to avoid bringing into our relationship destructive family patterns and passing on heavy burdens to our children.
It is an act of love for one self, for our family and for life that requires a strong will, courage, maturity and a deep sense of responsibility.
How a family constellation work?
A family constellation can be carried out in a group or private session. Sessions can be held once a year or few months apart as you wish. The process for one person lasts approximately an hour during a group workshop or in private.
In few sentences you will express the personal or relational issue you want to resolve.
Depending on your request, the facilitator will ask you to select from those attending your group session, someone to represent certain members of your family or other system that you want to work on.
Once the representatives have been selected, you will set them up in relation to each other in a space called ” The constellation” and you will seat down beside the facilitator to observe what happens within you and in front of you.
The representatives who are placed in their set up tune into their perception (physical and emotional sensations, any needs to move or to express themselves) making no personal judgments or drawing any conclusions.
The facilitator uses each verbal or non-verbal representative message to guide the constellation.
Little by little your family dynamic will unfold before your eyes and bring light to the roots of the problem. The step that is needed to find a solution is clearly seen.
Some healing sentences will be suggested and some alternative movements will be initiated in an attempt to restore a healthy dynamic.
After a constellation you will often experienced an inner shift and a deep release within. You become at peace with the ways things are.
What you have witnessed and experienced during the process acts deeply within your soul and sets into motion the energies necessary to bring positive change into your life.
Important questions you have to ask yourself:
- What are the important events of facts in your family?
- Who has been forgotten, rejected, excluded, deceased, mistreated, abandoned? (e.g still born and aborted babies, undeveloped twin, biological parents of an adopted child, disabled person, war comrades, victims, perpetrators, etc…)
- What issues would you like to resolve?
- What do you really want NOW?
If you wish to clarify your present situation in private session or in a group workshop or simply want more information – please do not hesitate to call Sigolène McCarthy 719 229 1084 sigolene@harmonyplus.info